I sent the following to Christany, cutting her off for good? We started arguing about this whole mess as I had Adult Situations and Langage t with her a few days ago.(START EMAIL)> Tiffany Let me brief as to why I made the decision I made. There is nothing short of my making a snap decision to leave The Witch for good and dedicating myself mind, body and soul to you after we slept together that would have been adequate for you. There would be no easing into it, no time to let things run their course, no nothing. I will not give you reassurance that I cannot give. Nor will I lie and say something to patronize you. You will never understand how I could possibly be closer to you and, also understand that my situation has not changed. I tried several times to get you to think logically and you lashed out at me every single time. You told me that you had a friend you slept with to come to stay at your mothers for the weekend. All I said was to have a good time. I never suggested anything else. With my being engaged to someone else, what would you have me say? Would you want me to treat you like you are my woman? Of course not, if you had any sense anyway. I do care about you. When I was with you, you were the one I wanted to be with. I was telling the truth when I said that. I also however, didnt back down from any position regarding The Witch though. Before you went to work out with Wendy your position was that you werent coming over because I didnt back down. At least I didnt plan (to see you) it anyway. When you called that night, you asked me about coming over, I said "If thats something you think you can handle Id love for you to come by". Not at any time had I said anything to suggest the situation external to us (The Witch, etc..) had changed or would change Thursday morning. I said it was a risk. You said you didnt like that word, I kept using it anyway. You said your feelings would change afterwards. I was cool with that, the situation never changed though. Feelings do change after sleeping together. I felt a lot closer to you. The rest (external to us) had not changed. Years from now you will understand. There are some things that as a parent you dont know that I do. There are also some things that I know about life that I know that you dont. You are at an age where you are no longer listening as I was when I was your age. (I also was married, had two children, a townhouse 2 cars, degree etc..) Thats your prerogative to be that way. Lashing out at me saying "you are predicting my future.." or "acting like my father" when I was trying to explain my actions to you was childish. I am 35, degreed, self-employed and a seventeen year veteran in what I do for a living with teenaged kids. I know you (may think you) are just as experienced as I am. I am going to go out on a limb and say you arent. Your parents are more my peers than you are. Lets just say that I know what I am doing. My success, material and personal, speaks for itself. Might I suggest being with younger men, so the two of you can grow as people together, perhaps someone who is more like your young friends? I understand you want someone more mature but you have to have some maturity to offer yourself first. Its unfair to want something (maturity) you cant give yourself. You dont want to be around men (regardless of age) who are immature, but the older men you want will not put up with you when you act that way. I included; I already have a daughter who is not too much younger than you are. I hope you learned something from this experience. The one thing I learned is how much more I appreciate The Witch (who is 36) and what she and Tabitha bring to my life. I dont have to teach anything to her, mold her or help her grow and more importantly if we do have something to discuss she will listen without lashing out, without saying "I dont need you acting like my father" and crap like that. LOL! Even if I was not with The Witch the end would have been the same, for the same reasons which are why I decided not to deal with you any more. Take care of yourself Tiffany. Perhaps well talk again someday but for now, I dont think its a good idea. The great thing though, is that you and everyone you know agrees with me. Right? LOL!