Christany says we can be friends, and I cant be a playah. Not bad. She is such a cutie though.(START EMAIL) Just to warn you, I wrote a lot.. I enjoy you. Your email was very informative in such a nice-nasty way. Or as my mother would say, Nicesty. Im just a little curious, and I definitely dont want to step on any ones toes. But just how long were you and The Witch dating before you got engaged? How did you know that she was the one? Most men arent willing to get married soon after meeting. I think it takes a lot of time being close to someone. Figuring out if there is more to it than love. Because I am a true believer that it takes more than love to make a relationship work. It takes things such as communication. Not just communication, but communicating effectively and efficiently. It takes committment, consideration, security, trust, and honesty. Im sure you understand. But, it also takes time to find these qualities in a mate. Again, just asking, please make me aware if Im overstepping any boundaries. My past relationship ended abrubtly when I realized that I was investing much more into the relationship than I was getting in return. But its not something that you may realize in the "beginning." Im not suggesting anything as far as your situation is concerned, just curious. I respect you telling the women you were formally involved with that the door was officially shut. Its commendable of you, again, some men need a pacifier. I will say that my experience with you has been brief, and in a way sad. We were not given the opportunity to explore the possibilities. But, at least there is a certain level of respect, and no regrets. Ill admit my amazement of your engagement. Im thinking, "Wow, I thought we were onto something. Taking our time, sometimes its more adventurous that way, and now, hes...engaged! And it hasnt even been long enough for him to fall in love!" The Witch being a friend from your past explains that detail, however, I was really wondering, "Is this man healthy?" LOL Just so you know, Im a writer. Short stories, articles, poetry, childrens books, etc. Some of my work has even been published. Do Not publish anything of mine on your website. Its copywrited. LOL! Seriously, I dont want to have to be the delivery of reality to those disillusioned women. Id rather sit back and observe. Unless Im forced to interfere. And we all know, the truth hurts! I know I dont have the body of Halle Berry, but do I want it pointed out to me that I have stretch marks on my thighs? Hell no. A good way to get put on my List. So yes, you can be hurt by honesty, even if it is to improve whatever flaws a person may have. Im not saying its right, just real. Okay now, hold on a minute, you better slow down with your list of things that damaged women. I deserved a good bowl of ice cream when that bastard stood me up on Valentines Day (true story, Ill tell you about it some day, lol). And when I was sitting at home breastfeeding my daughter, I deserved to call him a son of a bitch when he went out and fell in love with an online friend hed never met before. For that matter, all men are dogs!!! Okay, now that I got that out, the rest of your list is fine. I try and be humorous, I wonder if you know when to take me seriously, or when Im attempting to make you smile. Again, I cant make excuses for womens "dysfunctional" behavior. I would drive myself delirious trying to explain. Hey, I cant even tell you why Im the way I am. Did I just get lucky? But some women, just need that extra push. Okay, Ill share with you a story of mine. Im more than considerate. I try and treat people better than they treat me. Except for that man who I let use my credit card and he ran it up so damn high, Im still paying the bill on it. Him, I hate. Im only kidding, let me clarify, I have only had three serious relationships, and all of them are friends. I could probably write a book about all of the crap we went through together. But you live and you learn and you grow. I love your sarcasm. I just hope that Im never on the receiving end of it. I mean Ive felt it in some of your comments (very clever of you), but I dont care to have any of it directed specifically towards me.